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What a Spiritual Leader May Look Like

  17 Characteristics of a Spiritual Leader
God has designed men to be the leaders of their home, their wife and
their kids. Reflect on these traits and see how you rate yourself based
on th ese guidelines of being a spiritual leader of your family.

1. He is the prayer leader at home
Eph. 6:10 (NIV) “Be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power”
Eph. 6:18 (NIV) “And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of
prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on

2. He has the family finances in order
I Tim . 3:12A (NIV) “…the husband of one wife and must manage his
children and his household well.”

3. He mentors his kids
Eph 6: 4 (NIV) “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead,
bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.”

4. He is a role model for his family & friends
Eph 5:1 (NIV) “Be imitators of God, therefore as dearly loved children
and live the life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.”

5. He provides security & protection for the family

Eph. 6:11-12 (NIV) “Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggles is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.”

6. He meets the emotional needs of his wife & kids
Duet. 6:6 (NIV) “These commandments I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress upon your children talk to them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”

7. He provides good, clean clear communication to his wife & kids
Prov. 15:4 (CEV) “Kind words are good medicine.”
Eph. 6:29 (NIV) “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs”

8. He strives to have a gentle tone in his words with his wife & kids
Prov. 24:26 (NIV) “An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips.”
Prov.29:11 (NLB) “A fool gives full vent to anger, but a wise person quietly holds it back.”

9. He is honorable & respectful to his wife & kids
I Peter 3:7 (NIV) “Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.”

10. He is an honest & trustworthy husband & dad
Eph. 5:5 (NIV) “For this you can be sure no immoral, impure or greedy person such as an idolater has
any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God.”

11. He is a responsible husband & dad
Heb. 13:4 (NIV) “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all sexual immoral.”

12. He is vulnerable with his wife & kids
Eph 5: 25 (NIV) “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself…”

13. He shows meekness to his wife & kids
Col 3:19 (NIV) “Husbands love your wives and do not be harsh with them.”
Eph. 5:23 (NIV) “However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself…”

14. He knows how to have fun with his wife & kids
Matt 11:29 (NIV) “Take my yoke I upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.

15. He strives to be a man of integrity to his wife, family & friends
Prov. 31:23 (NIV) “Her husband is respected at the city gates where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.”

16. He strives to walk his talk to his wife, family & friends
Titus 2:7-8(NIV) “In everything show integrity set them by example by doing what is good. In your teaching show integrity, seriousness and soundness of speech that cannot be condemned…”

17. He strives to show unconditional love to his wife & kids

James 1:25 (NIV) “But the man who looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues to do this, not forgetting what he has heard, but doing—he will be blessed in what he does.”

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